IBhayibhile ayithi abufuneki utywala xa ubusela ngomlinganiselo ofanelekileyo naxa umthetho ungenangxaki nabo. Kodwa kona ukunxila ayikufuni.​—INdumiso 104:15; 1 Korinte 6:10.

Uza kuthini ke xa unyanzelwa ukuba usele naxa umthetho okanye abazali bengafuni usele?

•  Cinga ngento eza kwenzeka emva kokuba usele

•  Zenzele isigqibo

•  Okuthethwa Ngoontanga Bakho

Abanye oontanga bakho banokucinga ukuba ukusela kufanelekile xa ufuna ukonwaba. Kodwa yintoni enokwenzeka emva kokuba usele?

• Umthetho. Ukuba uhlala apho umthetho ungavumiyo ukuba usele, unokuhlawuliswa, kunokuthiwa waphule umthetho, uthathelwe ilaysensi yokuqhuba, kunokufuneka wenze imisebenzi yokunceda abantu okanye uphoswe ejele.​—Roma 13:3.

• Igama lakho linokungcola. Utywala bukwenza uphelelwe ziintloni. Unokuthetha okanye wenze izinto onokuzisola ngazo. (IMizekeliso 23:31-33) Kula maxesha okusetyenziswa kwamajelo onxibelelwano, izinto ozenzayo zisenokubangela ukuba igama lakho lingaze liphinde libe lihle.

• Usenokungakwazi ukuzikhusela. Xa usele, usenokuzibona ubethwa okanye udlwengulwa. Usenokuphenjelelwa lula ngabanye, nto leyo enokukubeka engozini okanye ikubangele ukuba wenze into engafunwayo ngumthetho.

• Unokuba likhoboka. Olunye uphengululo luthi xa uqala usemncinci ukusela, kulula ukuba ube likhoboka lotywala. Ukuba uyasela xa unestres, unesithukuthezi okanye kukho into ekudikileyo, kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukubuyeka utywala.

• Unokufa. Kutshanje, eUnited States, qho ngemizuzu eyi-52 bekusifa umntu omnye oqhuba enxilile. Kwisithuba seminyaka emihlanu, nyaka ngamnye bekusifa abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka eyi-21 abangaphezu kwe-1 500, kwiingozi ezibangelwa ngabantu abaqhuba benxilile. Noba awuselanga, ukuba ukhwela emotweni yomntu onxilileyo uzibeka engozini.

Unokuzisindisa kwiingozi ezibangelwa kukunxila ukuba ugqiba kusengaphambili ngento oza kuyenza.

Umgaqo weBhayibhile: “Onobuqili ubona intlekele azifihle.” (IMizekeliso 22:3) Bubudenge ukusela ngaphambi kokuba uqhube okanye ngaphambi kokuba wenze nantoni na eza kufuna ingqondo yakho yonke.

Isigqibo: ‘Nokuba ndifuna ukusela, soze ndisele de ndibe neminyaka evumelekileyo emthethweni futhi xa iimeko zindivumela.’

Umgaqo weBhayibhile: “Ningamakhoboka akhe ngenxa yokuba nimthobela.” (Roma 6:16) Ukuba usela kuba oontanga bakho besithi sela, uyabavumela bakulawule. Ukuba usela kuba udikiwe okanye unestres, loo nto ayizukwenza ukwazi ukucinga ngento onokuyenza ukuze ziphele ezo zinto.

Isigqibo: ‘Soze ndivumele oontanga bandinyanzele ukuba ndisele.’

Umgaqo weBhayibhile: ‘Musa ukuba phakathi kwabasela kakhulu.’ (IMizekeliso 23:20) Ukuhlala uncokola nabantu abangalunganga kunokukwenza ungaqini kwisigqibo osenzileyo. Uzifaka engxakini xa uhleli nabantu abasela kakhulu.

Isigqibo: ‘Andisoze ndibe neetshomi ezisela kakhulu.’